Archive for December 3rd, 2007
Women Who Fake
December 3rd, 2007
by Peter James
"I have been married for 20 years. My wife just told me that she has never experienced an orgasm when we were together, but she didn’t tell me because she didn’t want to hurt my feelings. I don’t know what to think. I love my wife, but she’s been hiding this from me for more than 20 years! Why wouldn’t she just tell me?" A lot of women fake orgasm. Some women in their 40’s or 50’s have been faking with their husbands for the entire duration of their marriages. Almost every woman has faked it at least a time or two. Which means that almost every man has experienced a woman orgasming who wasn’t…
Why do women fake?
Some do it to avoid disappointing their partner. Some women wish to avoid continued intercourse, and fake orgasm to bring things to a conclusion. A lot of women are given the message that they are "less than" women if they do not have an orgasm. Some women realize that their partner is really trying and want to reward his efforts even though they didn’t come.
Some women are afraid of damaging their partner’s ego… Let’s face it, some men DO feel mighty sensitive if his partner doesn’t come.
Can a man tell if a woman fakes an orgasm?
The best way to tell if a woman has faked an orgasm is by the way she acts afterwards. Women usually take a couple minutes to "come down" after good sex and an orgasm. If the woman you’re with is immediately peppy and full of energy, she might be faking it.
Most women like to cuddle after sex, but a woman who does not orgasm often does not feel as cuddly. In fact, she’s often rather energetic at a time where all that energy does not make sense - right after you made love. She may want to make coffee, or do a little cleaning. She will not feel close with you, and she won’t feel relaxed.
As sexual tension builds, so does adrenaline. When we orgasm, the body releases chemicals that relax the tension. That is why men often fall asleep, and women seem dazed and dreamy right afterwards. A man or woman who has felt sexual tension build and has not experienced release will still be under the influence of the adrenaline.
"Was it good for you?"
Paradoxically enough, if you’re not sure if your partner really came, and you ask her "honey, was it good for you?", you will often only irritate her. Even worse would be to ask her "Did you come?" We all like to feel that our partners are paying attention to what we’re feeling and experiencing in sex. It is harder to read women because their orgasms do not include ejaculation - no woman needs to ask "honey, did you come?" because she knows he did.
Although communication is the key to resolving this situation, it often never gets addressed.
For one thing, a lot of men are very sensitive about their bedroom skills, and are likely to respond with defensiveness or anger when told that their partner did not orgasm. These men often either blame the woman ("you’re not woman enough") or simply make sure she knows that it isn’t his fault by making regrettable statements ("my OTHER partners had no complaints").
If your partners are comfortable enough with you, you can determine more of what they really feel. But if you want your partners to trust you enough to communicate, you must be careful not to belittle or blame. Remember that it is harder for a woman to achieve orgasm, and that this is not your fault. Most likely she does not think it is your fault, either. She just feels sort of let down.
What can I do?
You can make yourself an accessible person to your partners. Make sure that you never say insulting or belittling things to them. You can simply tell them that you DO care how they feel but you cannot always tell if they have had an orgasm. Let them know that you will be more than happy to do whatever will make it easier to come, and that if they don’t fake it, it would help you to know what they do and don’t like. Point out that if they DO fake it, and if you can’t tell, it doesn’t mean you don’t care but it DOES mean that you won’t know.
If it’s something as simple as taking more time, you’re home free. Just extend the foreplay.
If it’s that she needs a different position, or only experiences orgasms with oral sex, that is certainly something you can work on.
Always let your partners know that you want them to experience as much pleasure as you do,
and that you would like to know what you do that feels good, or that they don’t care for. Let
them know that you won’t have hurt feelings, and it will help you to please them.
If a woman you’re with fakes it after you have sincerely communicated this to her, it is her issue and not anything to do with you.
If you find sex a way to share and communicate pleasure, and your partners know this, it should be good every time, even if one of you doesn’t always orgasm.
ProEnhance
December 3rd, 2007
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Basic Work Out
December 3rd, 2007
Often, a simple work out can make you feel good in a small amount of time. You can squeeze in these moves during lunch break, or even right before an upcoming date. The best part is, these exercises aren-t too demanding, so there will be minimal perspiration involved. Keep in mind that these routines are not meant for advanced trainers looking for serious muscle growth. They are designed to maintain a healthy and good-looking physique within approximately an hour. Make sure that you have a healthy snack at least one hour before the workout, and a full meal afterwards.
Cardiovascular and Lower Body
Your cardiovascular work out should consist of a half-hour daily walk. Simply lace up your quality walking shoes and go for a stroll around the block. Go out regardless of the weather- just make sure to dress adequately. An effective alternative to going outside is walking up and down a building staircase. This option is excellent for your heart, as well as maintaining leg muscles. To maintain a constant progression, try to increase your pace on a weekly basis. Set goals and gradually increase your distances. If possible, alter your cardiovascular sessions for an even more effective work out- use the staircase one day, and walk around the block on other days.
Upper Body
After your cardiovascular exercises, begin your upper body work out with a few exercises. Do these steps three times a week for better results.
Basic Pushups
Basic pushups will work your chest area, triceps and rear deltoids. Aim for 3 sets of 10 to 15 repetitions (depending on your fitness level), and gradually increase the repetitions as the movement becomes easier. Once the movement becomes too easy, you can increase the workout by elevating your feet on a chair to increase resistance.
Lay face down on the floor with your legs extended behind you and your hands directly beneath your shoulders. Your fingertips should be pointed straight ahead, and make sure you keep your back flat and your head in natural alignment with your spine. Get into the starting position by extending your arms straight from your shoulders, which lifts your entire body off the floor. While keeping your body stable, go down until your nose almost touches the floor. Exhale as you push back to the starting position with your chest and triceps. Try not to lock your elbows in order to keep constant tension on your muscles.
Close-Grip Pushups
Close-grip pushups mostly work the tricep muscles, the inner chest and the trunk muscles. Once again, carry out 3 sets of 10 to 15 repetitions (according to your fitness level), and gradually increase the repetitions as the movement becomes easier. - Use the same starting position and breathing pattern as the basic pushup. Bring your hands together and form a triangle with your index fingers and thumbs. As you go down to the floor, your elbows should go to the side, which incidentally puts more stress on your triceps and inner chest. Close-grip pushups also require more balance. By stabilizing your body, your trunk muscles will work throughout the entire movement. At first, close-grip pushups might strain your wrists, so make sure you stretch appropriately and start off slowly.
Wide-Grip Pushups
Wide-grip pushups will work your chest, rear shoulders and parts of your back muscles. Carry out the same sets and reps as aforementioned and gradually increase the reps as the movement becomes easier. - Use the same starting position and breathing pattern as the basic pushup. Your hands should be positioned beyond shoulder width, with your fingers pointing frontward. The wider position emphasizes the tension on your shoulders and lengthens your pectorals. Wide-grip pushups are more demanding, so you will tire more quickly than with other pushups. The above pushup variations will help keep your upper body muscles strong and fit. For additional exercises, try these simple moves. All you require are either 8 or 15 kg dumbbells, or a few minutes.
Legs
These repetitions will build up muscles in the thigh and buttocks. First, spread your legs to hip length and keep your legs fully extended. Holding dumbbells in each hand and maintaining a straight back, slowly bend your knees until your thighs are level to the floor. Then, slowly return to your original position. Continue this exercise until you tire your legs to failure.
Chest
In order to work out the pectorals, lie on a bed (stomach up) and hold a weight in each hand above your chest. Keep your arms fully extended with the palms facing each other. Next, lower the dumbbells outwards and down until parallel with your shoulders. Breathe out, and return the weights to starting position. Aim for eight sets of 8 to 12 repetitions.
Arms
These exercises will strengthen your biceps. Sit on the edge of a secure chair with your feet placed hip width apart. Hold the weights with palms facing inwards in front of your body. Extend your arm, and curl one dumbbell up at a time in a small arc towards your shoulder. Be sure to rotate your forearm so your palm faces your shoulder at the top of the movement. Aim for three sets of 8 to 12 repetitions.
